My husband died 8 days ago, on June 10th, 2019. He fought extremely aggressive brain cancer for 131 days leading up to that, so even though he has only been dead for 8 days, we’ve been grieving our loss of him for four and half months.
In that time I’ve been collecting resources for my daughter, and now for myself as well on how to deal with death and grief, and in the case of my daughter, how to show love to someone who isn’t nearby any more. I’m going to share the list of books I’ve found for us here.
For Pepper, age 4, these are the books we liked enough to purchase
- Help Me Say Goodbye: Activities for Helping Kids Cope When a Special Person Dies by Janis Silverman
- Samantha Jane’s Missing Smile by Julie Kaplow
- The Invisible String by Patrice Karst
- The Elephant in the Room by Amanda Edwards
- Sun Kisses, Moon Hugs by Sussan Schaefer Bernardo
- Badger’s Parting Gifts by Susan Varley
- Always By My Side by Susan Kerner
A few that we had from the library for her are:
- I Miss You: A First Look at Death by Pat Thomas
- The Goodbye Book by Todd Parr
- What Happens When A Loved One Dies? by Jillian Roberts
A few of these I taped together some pages to make them fit our story and beliefs. I don’t usually believe in censorship of any sort, but for a four year old watching daddy die, she doesn’t need any conflicting beliefs thrown in her face.
I chose just a few books for myself. A freshly widowed, 32 year old, single mother.
- Widow to Widow: Thoughtful, Practical Ideas for Rebuilding Your Life by Genevieve Davis Ginsburg
- Grief Day by Day by Jan Warner
- It’s OK That You’re Not OK by Megan Devine
- The Widow’s Journal by Carrie P. Freeman PhD
Aside from the journal, as I read these books you can expect reviews for them here on my blog. So far I am loving Grief Day by Day. It is exactly what I need while everything is fresh and everything is so difficult. If you want more information on any of the children’s books let me know and I’ll make a post detailing what worked and what didn’t for us in each book. Otherwise each title is a link to goodreads where you can see info.
Do you have any other books you would recommend to a new widow?