Hot Chocolate – What is your comfort book?
I want to go with a reread, something I might reread whenever I need comforting, but I don’t really reread, so I’m not sure what to choose. One book I’ve referenced several times since my husband’s death this past June is How to Survive the Loss of a Love by Melba Colgrove and Harold H. Bloomfield.
Pumpkin Carving – What is your favorite creative outlet?
In years past this answer would have been either crochet or decorating my planner, but this year it’s definitely doing paint by sticker projects. Pepper and I started working on them together just after my husband died and she can take it or leave it most days, but I work on at least one project every single day. We share our completed projects on Instagram. It’s relaxing and takes some concentration to keep me distracted from my grieving, but not so mind consuming that I’m not present for Pepper or work or whatever else I need to be doing at that moment. Here is one of the more complicated ones I’ve completed.
Falling Leaves – Changes that appear bad but you secretly love?
I don’t really have an answer for this one. All change in our lives this past year has been horrible.
Pumpkin Spiced Latte – Something you love that other people judge
Giving my child a ridiculous number of gifts for birthdays, Christmas etc. I love to give presents and she loves to get presents. As long as it doesn’t impede my ability to pay bills then I see nothing wrong with it. That said, I plan to scale back considerably next year so we can rebuild our emergency fund. Also, because she was getting rid of some of her toys this year to make room for new toys and while some of them were toys she is obviously too big for, others were ones she loved for a minute and then never touched again. So I’m working on being more intentional with her gifts.
Bonfire Night – What makes you explode with joy?
Being done with another day. When the kid is finally asleep and I’ve managed to keep us both alive all alone for another full day I do a silent mini happy dance to celebrate my accomplishment.
Fright Night – Favorite scary book or movie
I do not like to be scared. My life this past year has been so scary for real that I don’t look to media to scare me. But, one book I read recently that made me stay up late to finish it because it was scaring me too much to sleep was The Turn of the Key by Ruth Ware.
Halloween candy – Favorite thing to eat
I am not a cook, that was my husband’s job. I also don’t care much for food in general. I eat only because I have to to stay alive and take care of my kid. Lack of caring and lack of skills means I really only eat frozen pizza. I’ve eaten it at least once every day since my husband died. One of my goals for the new year is to broaden my culinary skills. Pizza may have been my favorite food at some point, but now I’m mostly sick of it. A favorite treat at this point could be twizzlers. My late husband hated licorice so I never bought them. The smell would make him sick to his stomach. Now that he has died I find myself snacking on them several times a week.
Scarves – Your autumn ‘must have’ accessory
Waterproof boots. I hate being cold and I hate wet feet.
Fire – A book or film that burns your soul
Toffee apples – a book or film that seems to be one thing but really has a different inside