Valentine’s day is the day after my birthday, so it’s never been a big holiday, but it’s always been my favorite. Growing up our parents always gave a gift to my little brother and I and I’ve continued that with Pepper.
This year, our first year without my husband/Pepper’s father, I wasn’t sure how the day would go. It was traditionally a daddy spoils his girls a little kind of a day and without him it seems mostly meaningless.
Pepper and I are on opposite ends of every holiday though. I want to skip them all since Jason died and she wants to celebrate them all to her fullest extent. So we’re going somewhere in the middle.
We each have one gift apiece and one gift to share. I chose things that would make us laugh. My goal for the year is to laugh. And my Jason would have wanted us to laugh and enjoy each other as much as possible.
Pepper is receiving a joke book with a dinosaur on the cover. Her and her daddy both loved dinosaurs and Pepper loves to make up and tell jokes. Her newest joke she made up is:
Pepperoni on your pizza.
I think we will all get a lot of laughs from a new joke book. The Big Book of Silly Jokes for Kids by Carole P Roman
For a gift for myself, I asked on Instagram for recommendations of books that would make me laugh. One of the suggestions was Furiously happy by Jenny Lawson. It’s subtitle is a funny book about horrible things and my late husband and I had a knack for laughing at horrible things that shouldn’t be laughed at. Our dark and twisted senses of humor are one of the things that made us work so perfectly together. I’m expecting to love this.
Our shared gift is one that will make us think of our Jason while we use it. Jason was an avid rubik’s cube fan. He had mastered the 2×2 and 3×3 versions in the year before his death. He was just working on speed at that point. He was given a 4×4 last Valentine’s Day, but he was pretty far in to his dying by that point and never really got to start that one. Pepper loves games so when I saw this card game I thought it would be a perfect option to help us think of Jason on Valentine’s Day and every time after that when we play it.
Pepper also a few chocolate hearts and a card I made for her.
It won’t be a romantic holiday this year and it’s likely to be the saddest Valentine’s Day I’ve ever lived through, but there will hopefully be a little laughter in our home in Jason’s honor.
How do you celebrate Valentine’s Day?